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How ‘Should’ Makes Us Stupid — And How to Get Smart Again
Jane Elliott PhD
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Mar 2023
When we say we ‘should’ do something, we frame our goal in a way that makes change less likely. Here’s how to motivate differently.
6 Mar 2023
1. Rephrase whatever thing you think you should do as something you WANT to do.
So for example, ‘I should go to bed earlier’ becomes ‘I want to go to bed earlier’. This immediately accomplishes two things: I stop seeing going to bed as an externally imposed standard I am inherently reluctant to meet, and I start seeing it as something I have chosen for myself for a reason