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Breaking Free From Conditional Self-Worth
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Aug 2025
Many of us keep a hidden scorecard, measuring our worth by wins and losses. This conditional self-worth fuels anxiety, depression, and burnout. You can break it by noticing the mental math, collecting proof you’re valued for who you are, and spreading your worth across different parts of life.
15 Aug 2025
In the late 1980s, Psychologist Edward Higgins discovered we carry three versions of ourselves: who we are, who we want to be, and who we think others expect us to be. The bigger the gap between these selves, the worse we feel and the more desperately we chase achievements to close it.